tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post8045636123103193497..comments2023-10-17T03:40:36.821-05:00Comments on Collected Yarns: Ponderings on Death this Mother's DayAngelahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11718137744623626322noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-6714753184162698662014-06-14T12:07:18.897-05:002014-06-14T12:07:18.897-05:00I just wanted to offer you my condolences. Loss i...I just wanted to offer you my condolences. Loss is hard no matter when it comes or who it comes too. I'm sure it hits especially hard when it is your own mom though. My grandma passed the week before mother's day this year, too. Remembering the good times brings tears to my eyes, but I want to keep her alive in my memories. Take your time with grieving - there is no time limit, and don't feel selfish about any of it. Kristin at SunnySewing.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15445370690561159996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-38675154848595018602014-06-02T12:06:18.707-05:002014-06-02T12:06:18.707-05:00I'm very sorry to hear about this - God will c...I'm very sorry to hear about this - God will comfort you, but nothing will ever make up for your loss. What you describe as selfish just sounds like normal grief, and you have to live in grief for a while and go through it. It doesn't really help to chastise yourself for not moving through fast enough. It's a work of love you are doing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-57252587322583664832014-05-24T20:55:16.869-05:002014-05-24T20:55:16.869-05:00May God continue to bless and strengthen you!May God continue to bless and strengthen you!Faye Lewishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02781186043996633965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-41123741635686718022014-05-22T20:47:34.704-05:002014-05-22T20:47:34.704-05:00Oh Angie, I didn't know you were going through...Oh Angie, I didn't know you were going through the loss of your mama. All those things you said are selfish are the very things I've thought about when I'll lose my own mama and daddy. I dread it so much but try to not borrow trouble for tomorrow. I know God's grace will cover you during these hardest days as He is sufficient for all our troubles. I love you and will pray for your grieving to be gentle.debbie baileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02479699000203333679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-22792471416775600082014-05-15T20:39:10.988-05:002014-05-15T20:39:10.988-05:00Oh, Angela, this was a wonderful, hard, convicting...Oh, Angela, this was a wonderful, hard, convicting post to read. I feel we are so much alike. Your paragraph where you described how "selfish" you feel in the many ways you miss your mom -- I could say all those too! I know I do feel them now, and will feel them intensely when she's gone. It makes me ache with dread. 67!! So young. I can't imagine the shock. It seems to me that your thinking and wrangling with all this, and voicing it to yourself, must be helpful in working through it. Yes, mortality is very close. But your instincts about heaven are wonderful -- and to be eternally on the OTHER side of death, never to think of it or dread it again! Think of all those mothers, generations of them, loving and mothering each other there! And they're all thinking of you, the next one to join them, loving you as you do your best to mother. Thank you for all this. It is good to read. I hope it is also good for you to write it, and helpful.M.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-48118869331208666972014-05-12T21:10:17.599-05:002014-05-12T21:10:17.599-05:00Oh, Angela, your words are so poignant, so well-ex...Oh, Angela, your words are so poignant, so well-expressed, so moving. Thoughts and emotions and heart pangs are all over the place, and yet you must return to your responsibilities and nothing seems normal. During a time of my own grief, I remember feeling dull and wondered why it mattered what kind of cereal I bought at the grocery store when my world was shattered...and yet my family needed to eat and so grocery shop I must. Life is hard. <br /><br />Even in your grief, I sense your unshakable trust in God and hope for the future. May He continue to guide you one day at a time, one step at a time...Cheryl https://www.blogger.com/profile/00063844335185525553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-34115556542049848902014-05-12T14:40:44.270-05:002014-05-12T14:40:44.270-05:00Dear Angela this post is so moving. Everything you...Dear Angela this post is so moving. Everything you write is so very true and it's just so hard facing the realities of it all. I think our mortality is really the last taboo of our society and everything that gets pushed at us in the media tries to cover it up which isn't helpful when we are forced by personal circumstance to confront it. And losing our parents is always a bit about us losing the last of our childhood as well as the people we've loved longest and who've loved us longest. I do believe that your Mom is going on loving you just as you go on loving her and as you so beautifully say here, in heaven we get to reconnect with all those past generations we have had to say goodbye to here. Living with the unpredictability of life is hard going & I think it's one of the things we all struggle to come to terms with - coming to terms with mortality but also living life to the full. Perhaps that is one of our most basic human and Christian vocations actually. I've got a reflection about that I'll try and look out to send you. Your email was perfectly timed by the way so your Mom and your family were all in our Easter prayers here. I send you a hug and wish I lived rather closer to you to provide slightly more tangible support for you at this sad and costly time. Anyway I send you love and prayers across the Atlantic. E xxThomasina Tittlemousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01574272724724663796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-42394851652384160752014-05-12T06:17:55.860-05:002014-05-12T06:17:55.860-05:00You have been in my thoughts so much as we share t...You have been in my thoughts so much as we share the loss of our mom's this spring. I keep going back to Psalm 121, my mom's favorite. And have been talking to her, I know in my heart that she is happy. Thank you for sharing your thoughts so beautifully. You are in my prayers, peace and solace. CocoCocohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13784505178222083364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-25096316762069001502014-05-12T06:10:53.905-05:002014-05-12T06:10:53.905-05:00Angela your thoughts about death and grief have to...Angela your thoughts about death and grief have touched my very soul! I sit here looking at the screen pondering of what to say to help you and to encourage you, I am speechless for I think you have said it all. God is your source and strength, I am so thankful he has allowed me to lift you up by praying for you. His Word is so true and His promises are true, grab hold and don't let go.<br />Love, <br />SueSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14843762646877115013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-79165265426092357752014-05-12T02:35:58.248-05:002014-05-12T02:35:58.248-05:00Wish I was near enough to give you a hug! Be kind ...Wish I was near enough to give you a hug! Be kind to yourself - the Lord made us emotional people (otherwise we'd be robots) but it's not selfish to miss those things - they were what brought her pleasure, too. Thanks for reminding me to be more patient with Mum (90) when she gets under my skin! We need to make the most of every day that folks are in our lives - although you're right, we will meet up again one day, with no more death or tears. Hope you have a good week, Chris xxChrysalishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02011407785733018944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-41648870799154893782014-05-12T02:27:21.363-05:002014-05-12T02:27:21.363-05:00I am so sorry that you lost your mother suddenly. ...I am so sorry that you lost your mother suddenly. Please do not think yourself selfish to suffer through grief. This is a very sad time for you; and I'm thinking of you (virtual hug).Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03156106727490224625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2483447783501410646.post-36297783091969361242014-05-11T17:58:27.801-05:002014-05-11T17:58:27.801-05:00You have written this so well. It takes me back to...You have written this so well. It takes me back to the early weeks after my mother's passing when I had many of the same thoughts. I was cured of "doing the math" when The Lord reminded me that my times are in His hands. I have no guarantee of tomorrow in this life, but that promise of life ever after is all the more precious. Sweet comfort to you as you journey through this season of loss. Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00618654361869856894noreply@blogger.com